You know the old saying…life ‘aint always easy. All of the things I despised about my Mother as a child, are what I am most proud to have inherited as a Mother. My Mother taught me to love unconditionally, always give back and to always fight for the underdog. ALWAYS do the right thing. These life lessons growing up allowed me to open my heart to being a Mother of 2 adopted children whom I love unconditionally.
Foster Mom & Bio Mom – Same Thing
After 3 years of being their foster parent, my precious children legally became mine on Christmas eve, 1999. Best Christmas give ever! My son was 9 and my daughter was 4. Both kids entered my heart the moment they stepped into my home. As children of a very abusive and unstable family, they had been shuffled through a system that was broken. Extremely shuffled. Very broken. My children were exposed to some of the worst things in life, early on. If I allowed myself to think about it, I would still be very angry over how very broken “the system” can be and all they endured.
I know in my heart that they were brought to me on purpose. I am so grateful that I decided on a whim to foster them both. It was not a plan of mine, but just happened. Whether you believe in God or a higher power, I believe everything happens for a reason.
Family is Family
I arrived home from a family beach trip yesterday with my beautiful family and aging Mother. As I watched my Mom walking the beach with her walker, I was reminded again how precious life is and how very grateful I am to have had such a wonderful Mother. Without her life lessons and strong convictions, I know that I wouldn’t have had the courage to adopt my children. I wouldn’t have had the strength to fight for my children when they didn’t believe in themselves.
My childrens journeys have been full of ups and downs due to their early lives before they were brought to me, and I always believed in them. Even when they didn’t believe in themselves. Just as parents do. My wish is that they will always love themselves and always strive to be better than they were yesterday. So far, so good. I hope that I have forever left a place in their hearts and that they both know how very much I love them.
To My Mom on Mothers Days
To my Mother, I love you so. Thank you for the gift of being your child. To my children, always choose to make the world a better place. Be the change you wish to see in the world. Always believe in yourself more than anyone else believes in you. And never forget how very much I love you both and count my blessings for you, every single second of every single day. Thank you for the gift of being your Mother.
Kyle and Miranda, I hope that you will look back when you have children of your own and say “the things I most despised about my Mother are the things I am most grateful for now”.
Happy Mothers Day to all of you!